Self Description: I'm a doctor and I've seen enough of life to know what actually matters and what's just noise. Most of it is noise. The things that aren't values, character, how someone behaves when nobody's watching. My dream is a small house by a river, just something quiet and mine with good light and enough space to breathe. I think that says something about how I want to live in general. At this point in life I'm looking for someone who already is what he says he is. Mature, self-sufficient, reliable not as a description but as a daily practice. Two whole people choosing each other. That's the only kind of relationship I'm interested in.

Comments: Honestly at 35 I've stopped being impressed by what men say about themselves. Words are easy. What actually matters is whether Sunday morning feels calm next to you, whether you do what you said you'd do, whether I feel respected without having to ask for it. That's the whole list. What I'm genuinely looking for is simple: a man who is already himself, just settled in who he is and what he values. I want to choose someone every day because I actually want to and I want to be chosen the same way. That's just the only kind of relationship worth having. If you read this and thought "that's exactly how I think about it too" I think we should talk.